You’re probably not always confident about your ability to be okay.
And I understand why. You are filled with doubt, negative anticipation, and fear, which isn’t exactly a recipe for confidence, right?
When you’re calm you can tell yourself a hundred logical reasons why you are going to be okay, and in the moment things feel manageable.
But the minute that anxiety knocks at your door, you freeze and wonder if this is the end – the day that your worst nightmare comes to life.
This happens for several reasons, chief among them is the fact that high anxiety is not within your direct control.
That’s why being struck by anxiety usually feels like an ambush, because it operates primarily through the same system that controls your heart beat – it kind of just happens.
This, of course, is scary. Your lack of control fosters racing thoughts that usually culminate in two simple thoughts that jump into your head at almost the same time and they are: “I’m okay” or “I’m not okay.”
The problem is that the human brain has trouble holding two opposing thoughts at the same time. This leads to something called cognitive dissonance, which is a form of mental tension.
It’s often what’s responsible for your avoidant behavior as you strive to dodge situations that could trigger anxiety.
But those aren’t the only issues. You also have to contend with the fact that anxiety is super negative. I imagine that if anxiety were a person it would be the type to complain about everything.
All this taken together makes anxious thoughts stand out in your mind. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to listen to those negative thoughts.
In today’s episode of The Anxiety Guru Show, I explore what you can do to boost your confidence and win the fight against cognitive dissonance.
- The role that low confidence plays in high anxiety
- How to understand your anxious thoughts
- Why you feel out of control when you’re anxious
- What steps you can take to believe that you will be okay
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