Comments on: Can You Live A Happy Anxious Life?

By: E Hany

E Hany — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 04:04:56 +0000

WOW, as I read some of your stories I can say I have been there. I was trashed for 4 years. I got to the point where I just told myself all I have to do is get to work…well more like get to the parking lot then I will deal with getting to the building. For real I was that anxious. I would crash through the doors and get to my office and shut the door. It took me almost to the point of destruction. How did I fix it… Simple…I started saying no to eveyone but me. A 6 month dose of Zoloft and I grabbed a smaller backpack. Backpack? Thats my metaphore for where I carry things. I chose what I wanted to carry. It was almost nothing at first. Then it grew. I imediately recognized when the load was too heavy and I unloaded the stressors. In reality everthing is stress some good and some bad. It takes weight to sink a boat. Even if it is good weight like gold or money. Well I ramble, but seriously unload some problems and take control. The phrase “that would be great but not right now” will free you.

By: carly

carly — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 13:32:23 +0000

How refreshing !!Your attutude is the one you have to adopt. I too after ten years of on and off suffering, came to find an inner peace with my turmoil. In a strange way it had to become my freind. I realised that if you suffer the right way, it is easier to carry and lasts not half as long. I no that i will always had preiods of stress that trigger my anxiety and panic. But its like anything you get used to the process, get to know what comes next!. Thank you for optimistic and hope provoking words

By: Ria

Ria — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:27:50 +0000

Paul- thank you for this post! I totally appreciate it and have felt the same way. Taking action is key as well as acceptance.

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By: Jason

Jason — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 02:34:57 +0000

@Kelly ACT Therapy seems interesting. Being in the “now” is the only true way to live. Also looking at the events in one’s life as synchronicity brought to us for a purpose is also a great way to view things.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 02:41:29 +0000

Thanks for your support, it’s very kind.

I actually don’t think happiness is a choice. Have you done much work with ACT therapy? It’s been one of the few things that has made sense to me in all this and has a lot of info on this type of thing.

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 14:59:55 +0000

Happiness is a choice, not a destination. Choose to be happy “now”. It really is that simple. However, people get caught up in looking outside themselves to find happiness, when really all they need to do is be quiet, be grateful for what they have currently and choose happiness. The good things in life aren’t only free, they are simple.

By: Paul

Paul — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 02:49:51 +0000

Hey Kelly, I know what you’re going through, literally. It is horrible, but it’s not forever.

Try to find things you really enjoy and develop that interest. Getting out of bed is step one, getting out of your own head and onto external things is step two. Hang in there!

By: Andy

Andy — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 22:28:39 +0000

Start small, Rome wasn’t built in a day as they say. Geting out of bed is an achievment, making your breakfast, cleaning your teeth…slowly, with lots of effort, it will come back to you Kelly. I promise! Just get teh ball rolling. You will get better!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 07:09:58 +0000

Nice post.

I’ve been “sick” (the same way you describe it) for over 4 years now. It’s hard to get out of bed and I can barely take care of myself. I thought this would pass, but here I am years later worse than ever….which makes it seem impossible to do some of the great ideas you suggested.