If I walked into a room full of therapists today and told them that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) wasn't all it's cracked up to be I'm sure I'd get some dirty looks. Yet, it is true. CBT isn't always effective. I think as a consumer it is important that you understand the good and bad sides of therapy. So today I want to share with you what can make CBT ineffective. Before I do that though I want to make it clear that CBT does help many people. In fact, the reason it is so widely used is because, unlike so many other of forms of therapy,
The world has gone mad. It's always been a little nutty I guess, but it seems like things have shifted into a new kind of crazy. I can't possibly explain all the reasons why the world has gone mad, but what I can say with certainty is that much of your anxiety is not entirely of your own making. In fact, I think the modern world has placed human beings in a very bizarre place. A place where people are more like robots created to fill a role rather than live a life. Maybe that's an exaggeration, who really knows, but from the looks of things it
The truth is that most people looking to heal their anxiety don't think in terms of growth. People tend to think more in terms of cessation. In short, they just want the pain to stop. And although I can relate to this type of thinking it usually doesn't help much. What is helpful is trying to experience anxiety with new eyes. What is helpful is to challenge yourself to see anxiety not as a curse but a very unwelcome learning opportunity. Now in a perfect world there would be no need to experience pain and suffering in order to grow as a person.
Anxiety is a great attention-grabber. It keeps the mind overloaded with scary what if scenarios. These scenarios range in severity from "Man, I hope that doesn't happen," to "Oh my God if that happens again I'm dead." That's why it's easy for people to become obsessed with their anxiety related problems. They get stuck on the 'what if's.' A horrible mix of anticipation and fantasy keeps otherwise sane people scurrying about the internet looking for answers. The issue with this, of course, is that anxious people end up problem focused.
I have some news. For at least the next two months The Anxiety Guru Show will be on hiatus. I'm taking a break to give myself more time to study, exercise, and be with my family. I know that for a small number of you this show helps, which is why I want to emphasize that I am not canceling the show. After I earn my license and things settle down a bit I will return. Recently it struck me that I have been doing the podcast for over 7 years without a significant break, which is kind of nuts when you think about it. What's good about that though
When anxiety becomes a problem it's hard to cultivate solutions. Instead, you're more likely to focus on the problem itself, or maybe even uncovering some quick way of making it all stop, which makes sense. Yet, as natural as this instinct is, what happens when this quick solution doesn't materialize? In my experience, people usually become frustrated with their inability to overcome this major life issue. That's why when you feel stuck with anxiety it is critical that you go back to the beginning and figure out the most basic details of your
When you're faced with relapse or persistent anxiety part of you might feel defeated. Like no matter what you do you just can't seem to get the upper hand against your anxiety. I certainly felt that way when I had a few good days in a row followed by a return of anxious thoughts or symptoms. In my view, it is okay to acknowledge how you feel in those dark, lonely moments. Yet, it can be dangerous to linger too long on those kinds of negative thoughts. Dangerous in that anxiety tends to build on itself and the more you stand still and ponder how
At the peak of my anxiety I was miserable. I missed out on all kinds of fun because of it. But at the time it was hard to not feel that way. Anxiety always seemed busy producing a never-ending lineup of frightening symptoms for me to contend with. It started with palpitations, then stomach problems, then out of control worry. And every time I mastered one symptom a brand new one would sprout up in its place. What made things worse is that I didn't spend my time trying to get better. I just dove deeper into my little self-created hell. In fact,
Having random thoughts is normal. You could be brushing your teeth and start thinking about whether or not you locked your car or about what you did with those TPS reports at work. It happens to all of us. But what happens when you experience high anxiety along with random thoughts? The short answer is that your mind will often wander into a very negative space. You might start thinking about the past, the future, or about all the ways that anxiety might ruin your life. Anxiety can provide a never ending stream of negative outcomes. And, of