Do You Daydream a Lot?

To answer my own question, yes I do daydream a lot.

Believe it or not daydreaming is a symptom of anxiety disorder and depression.  So chances are if you’re an anxious person you spend much of your time in la la land, fantasizing about a very cool version of yourself doing extraordinary things.  But why?

Most shrinks think that daydreaming is a self defense mechanism.  Daydreaming is a form of escapism.  As you well know, when you have an anxiety disorder things can get negative and intense.  Not only that, but all that negativity can get strung out over weeks and even months at a time.

As result, the brain cries out for a break and so it becomes very easy to drift off into a dream state.  Daydreaming is like a time out for your tired mind.

There are two schools of thought on whether daydreaming and fantasy are a good or bad thing for those that suffer with mental ailments like anxiety disorder.

On the one hand, you have those that say that daydreaming is bad because it distracts you from dealing with your problems and hinders you from correcting whatever is stressing you out.  They think it will only prolong and maybe even intensify whatever is troubling you.

Then there are those that completely disagree with that view and find that daydreaming is actually healthy.  The thought is that daydreaming is a break from mental stress which can only be good.  And it’s also thought that daydreaming allows for creative thought and indirect productivity.

So then, is daydreaming good or bad?  I think in moderation it is a good thing.

When I was a kid I was sent home with notes pinned to my backpack that told my parents that I was constantly daydreaming.  I’ve had this love affair with daydreaming for as long as I can remember, but I was never less productive because of it.

Even at work I find that I space out quite a bit.  I usually dream about being somewhere else, like a resort or something goofy that gets me away from any difficulty I’m having.  I don’t however plan my space time, it just kind of happens on its own.  But I also use that time to think about things to write about, and about other projects I want to develop so it’s not always frivolous.

Did you know that they even have a personality type named for people that chronically fantasize?  Fantasy Prone Personality or FPP is a trait type describing people that experience their fantasies deeply and can sometimes cause them to get lost in their waking dreams to the point of having an out of body experience.  When I read that my first reaction was to think that the labeling of everything has gone a bit too far, but that’s just me I guess.

Anyway, if you find yourself daydreaming a lot you’re not a weirdo.  You are simply trying to give your mind a break.  And as long as you don’t neglect your responsibilities go ahead and dream away.

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  1. Bronx09 says

    I agree it all depends on the individual and how you look @it, I started daydreaming since 5-6years old and I still do till now and I’m 20years but I find myself drifting alittle too much into fantasies and it keeps me Sane just a few mins a day helps me relax and disappear or when there is nowhere to physically run to you. I think it’s insecurity, escaping reality and Where dilusional meets happiness?? Lmao WTF k

  2. says

    Hey Bronx09,

    When you said… “just a few mins a day helps me relax and disappear or when there is nowhere to physically run to you,” I think you nailed it.

    Daydreaming is simply a defense mechanism to escape the difficulties of anxiety, depression, or what have you. I think you’ll find that when you reduce anxiety the daydreaming plummets in frequency.

  3. de says

    another form of daydreaming is relating oneself to others usually great or successful person or creating imaginable relationship through one’s spouses or family member.

    It is comforting but can adverse effect on ones normal life when facing the reality. the best way to overcome is to get involved in work where you need to constantly use your brain such as reading, playing video games, gardening, arranging or meeting friends and talking about anything real.

  4. says

    I think that many of you sound exactly like you have what I have, which is called Maladaptive Daydreaming. It’s a condition that causes excessive daydreaming. If excessive daydreaming is a problem for you, and affects your life adversely, then you might have this issue.

    You might not have heard of this before, because it is just now starting to be studied.

  5. Louis says

    I see what you guys mean in all the opinions but hear this. I have been a serious daydreamer all my life. Building fantacies beyond imagination. Yet it wasted so much time that shouldh’ve been used for education, building career, “learning how to do things” that now my situation is as follow. No income, lots of talent whivh a lot of people crave for but don’t know how to use, no kids, no loved ones, yet a reputation and history of helping people – aspescially kids – but what’s the use. A failed life with no faith. I do plan on leaving the world since suffering is now enough! So carefull to let your kids daydream to much – it’s just an “easier way” to enjoy things.

  6. daydreamer says

    I was also the kid that got sent to the corner of the room at school for not staying with it. :-) I’ve always loved daydreaming. If I haven’t had time to daydream during the day I literally crave it and become irritable and frustrated. I have an anxiety disorder, and I was an anxious kid too. My daydreams are so vivid and I become completely lost in them. Weirdly, my emotional reaction to my daydreams is stronger than my reaction to real life. That probably supports the idea that I’m avoiding, detaching or escaping real-life problems by indulging in daydream.

    To me, daydreams are stories. They’re like a film playing in my head and I become engrossed. I love tragedies. I love thinking about something AWFUL and how upset I’d be. I often make myself cry and feel a deep – but cathartic – sadness. It’s like watching a weepy movie. It makes you cry, but when the film/daydream is over and you slowly come back to the world, you feel like you’ve been on a journey. You feel refreshed, you feel cleaned out, you feel satisfied. Or that’s how I feel!

    Also, I am now a professional writer, so all that making up stories throughout my life has probably done me some good!

    I see the bad sides though. I escape too much to fantasy land and I’m not in control of it. I become obsessive when I am under a great deal of stress and often become obsessed with idealised versions of my life that usually involve dating a celebrity or someone else with status (I’ll show them all my brilliant new boyfriend etc etc etc). But those fantasies can become disturbing. I find myself obsessively thinking about the celebrity or man, even when I don’t want to. It becomes a compulsion. I will have to look them up on the internet and look at pictures, at least ten times a day, and I don’t want to!

    I used to have a compulsion to eat (a bit like a non-purging bulimia as I went through concurrent phases of starvation) and the obsessive fantasies I have feel exactly the same. I will not consciously be interested in a celebrity (when I am not stressed I have zero interest in celebs etc), but if I don’t think about them or look them up on the internet I will feel extremely uncomfortable and I’ll have to do it to make the feeling go away. I’ve now decided it’s sort of like recurring OCD, because I don’t enjoy any part of it, it’s all just to make uncomfortable feelings disappear. Only my OCD-type-thing occurs with fantasy – my ritual is to fantasise – and the strong obsessiveness I describe only happens when I’m under tons and tons of stress (only a few times in my life).

    So I think daydreaming is good and bad. You work out for yourself when it’s a danger sign!

  7. Miranda says

    I’v been daydreaming since I was 12 years old i am now 16. I can still remember the first fantasy daydream I came up with in my mind. All my daydreams have to do with fantasy of boys that I like or my “dream boy” i’v never had a boyfriend and every one around me does it puts me in such a lonely state of mind and no only way I can escape is by daydreaming. I also find my self talking to my self out loud as if in talking to the person in my daydreams, I usually daydream in the car while my mom drives or will taking a shower or at lunch time in school or even before I go to bed, I feel less lonely when I day dream and I can just get away from the fact that I feel very lonely, might even be depressed because I always seem to be sad even when good things are happening to me it’s really up setting, I try to stop daydream an not think about a fantasy world where every thing is perfect but I fall right back in to it with out even noticing have the time I just zone off into my own world where life seems so much better, for so long I thought I was the only one with this problem but it’s nice to know that I’m not really all that crazy other people have gone through the same thing.

  8. FantacyWorld says

    Your comment explains my life perfectly. I started daydreaming at around 12 and I’m going to turn 16 soon. In my house I often get kicked out of the shower because I feel like its the best place to daydream and I loose myself in time. In my daydreams I come up with characters that are datting my celebrity crush. I love listening to music when I daydream and whatching movies, tv shows, and listening to music triggers my daydreams. In school I have a hard time concentrating and I often leave projects for the night before. For so long I thought I was alone in this. It feels nice to know that I’m not the only one.

  9. ambero says

    im 22 and have been daydreaming since i can remember . i used to be constantly in trouble at school for this as i cant consentrate for longer then a cuple minutes i never used to get any work done and was always behind. now im older im always depressed feeling suicidal at times and constantly worried about anything.
    i daydream so much i can feel myself muttering under my breath as i have conversations in my head, i get caught smiling or frowning as im daydreaming without reliseing im doing it.
    also ive found my self having alot of unwanted thoughts lately things that i dont want to think and i cant get them out of my head. i feel like all of this is effecting my life my boyfriend recently left me for my moods and im not doing so well at work or college. i want to get help but is there realy anything anyone can do or is this just who i am ? if i got help with my depression would this help everything else ?

  10. Suisei says

    I have minor malaadaptive day dreaming. Do you know any tips to get rid of it or cope with it ?

  11. Wesley Dejesus says

    I’m 15 and I day way to much,like if am daydreaming I stayed still for 30 sec I’ll say,than I comeback alive and in like 5 min I daydream again lol.But I find it relaxing,cause like that I could delete all them bad memories….When am in school I daydream and I start looking at an object or a person fit :)

  12. Miguel says

    I’ve started daydreaming when I was about 10yo
    I mostly daydream by the fun and challenge of it, and always trying to improve

    I’ve started in my boring after school study center, most of times I had everything done and had to remain in my table
    When I was a kid my daydream was like a game in 3rd person, I controlled the main personage that was like an humanoid robot with built in weapons, and I played with it, in certain places in known the most and had a clever 3D representation of everything

    It was all about battling other metalic enemys and changing robots features, and adding things in the cenario, veicles, buildings,…

    I really liked “rendering” material destruction (like metal, concrete ,wood) and deformation, explosions, reflections,.. slow mo certain parts to add extra detail, and sometimes playing it back and forward to improve it and make modifications to look better

    I still remember one day, it was like 6pm and the teacher called me because mom had already arrived, I just hear a very far away voice repeating, and sudently like 7 or 8 seconds later I find my self looking at the corner of a front table, I change my look to the teacher and she is with an expression like (are you deaf or what?) xD
    The moment I realized how engaged I could be…

    I’m 20yo guy, I haven’t daydreamed than much since my 12yo until 3 years ago

    I’ve been daydreaming with a girl that is like based on 4 person features, with some extra detail mods
    It already feels like an original person that is not a copy of anyone
    I’ve already daydreamed so much times that feels that I’ve already developed a personality of her with so much situations passed throght
    Most times I daydream in 3rd person, but I dont actually daydream with being myself with her anymore, I actually daydream about being her and replacing myself with her

    I also simulate a lot of my real situations with her and its always exciting

    I really like changing features like clottes, hairstyle, facial expressions and voice tone, I have a couple of look standards, I’ve been improving a lot in shape and detail rendering, It just feels so real by this stage

    Like more than a year ago I randomly came up with a name in my daydream, that passed to surname and added a first name

    I begins to feel strange for having a strong emotional attachment for someone that doesn’t exist
    Sometimes I just wish so badly it was real

    I’ve been thinking how could I transpose this “idea” to some form of reality, I started to practice drawing, and I’ve also a couple of other ideas, I think this will always be my golden sweet dream from now on, wish me luck :-)

  13. fifi says

    was biginning to think i am goin crazy or i’m about to go insane. Had to just check if i was when i stumbled on this and read all of the great comments. Cant remember the first time i strted daydreaming but i knw it’s been for a very long time. And i’m 22 nw…. One thing that baffles me is, i’m always consious of my surroundings when i daydream, like i do two things at a time, if i’m with people and i start to daydream i still reply their questions and act like i’m all ears…i dnt knw if that is normal…. And i daydream alot, i could come up with stories, things i wld love to do, a life i wld have lived if i was brought up in a particular place or way nd lots of crazy but interesting stuffs… :)… It’s kinda an escape route tho’, i dnt feel lonely wen i’m alone…

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