Whenever I write something I think about my readers, people like you, and I wonder: What can I say that will help with the ugliness of anxiety?
In my own, simple way, I try to highlight the positive. I do that because I know that when you’re anxious it’s so easy to do the opposite.
It’s easier to despair and wrap yourself in the bitter embrace of fear than it is to be optimistic.
My critics lament that I’m too upbeat, but then again, that’s why they’ll probably stay anxious for the rest of their lives. Negativity has a way of throwing mud in your eye and blinding you to what you need to see in that regard.
That’s what I think anyway.
I’ve heard some people say nothing works for anxiety, that they’ll always be afraid, and unhappy.
Well. That’s not true. Especially the piece about being unhappy. In fact, I think that if you work on being happy you will, over time, reduce your anxiety.
Not to say that breathing, eating, and thinking right don’t help, but let’s not forget about the obvious, either.
Recently I got an email from a reader that asked how he could be happy despite stress. So I took the opportunity to create a podcast that addresses not just happiness in the face of stress, but happiness in general.
It makes sense that he framed his question like that. When stress and anxiety beat you up all the time it’s hard not to think about everything in the context of those kinds of emotions; those heavy, I’m wearing wet jeans kinds of feelings.
I didn’t focus on negative feelings though. I just asked the question more simply.
How do you go about being happy, at all?
To answer that question I defined what happiness is, then I list, what I believe to be, the best ways to achieve happiness.
It’s certainly not the only, easiest, or most creative way. But it works.