We figure that as long as things don’t get too out of control that we can just get over it. But how do you know when enough is enough? How do you know when it’s time to see a therapist?
This is an important question to ask yourself. Because even with all the knowledge and good intention in the world the truth is sometimes you still need help.
You may have relied on a good friend or family member to confide in and help you during those bad days, but when should you try something else? What are signs that you may need professional help?
There was an article in the San Diego Union Tribune that answers this very question and I suggest you read it if you have a minute. But if you’re short on time then let me give you an overview of what the article describes as the 7 signs that you may need to see a therapist.
1. You’re using drugs or alcohol to cope with your anxiety.
2. You are experiencing a high degree of irritation and anger and as a result you are having a difficult time getting along with others.
3. Grieving as a result of a loved ones death or lost relationship.
4. You have experienced physical or emotional trauma.
5. Uncontrollable crying and other signs of depression .
6. Anxiety that is so intense that it is stopping you from doing the things you like to do.
7. When doctors can’t explain your symptoms or attribute them to any specific medical condition.
In addition to the articles comprehensive list, let me add a few additional signs that would suggest that it may be time to go see a therapists.
8. If you have tried “everything” to get better but find yourself in the same position after months or even years of trying to cope by yourself.
9. If no matter what you do you can’t get out of your mental rut. This is a sense that nothing gives you fulfillment. It would be wise to explore why you have this feeling.
10. If you feel bad about yourself. If you have serious self-esteem or confidence issues this can adversely affect you. It would be helpful to identify what it is about you that you don’t like and find ways to improve your perception of those perceived flaws. A sense of positive self-worth can do wonders for your everyday happiness.
My first time seeing a therapist was during my junior year in college. It was a difficult decision for me to make because I was afraid of being judged and labeled. However, after only my first visit I felt like someone had removed a huge weight from my shoulders. Sometimes you need a trained professional to not only evaluate you, but also to provide guidance and a sympathetic ear.
I have tried in the past to speak with people I knew about my anxiety and felt like they not only did not understand but also like they really didn’t care. Now this I don’t think is malicious intent, just ignorance. Have you ever talked to a drunk guy while sober? It’s kinda like that. So don’t be afraid and if you think you need it then chances are that you do. If you need help finding a therapist click here . And remember that there is no shame in seeking help, ever.