If I asked you to tell me what anxiety is I’m sure you’d do a fine job.
After all, you know your stuff.
You could probably tell me a lot about what your anxiety feels like, what fear feels like, even what terror feels like.
I’m confident that you could give me all the intricate details.
In fact, I’m sure you and I could easily get lost in the details of your latest complaint, but what would be the point?
I know why you do it. You’re on the lookout for danger. You’re anticipating, calculating, always watching.
To be fair, I understand this tendency quite well. I was the same way for the better part of a decade.
But I can assure you that this approach is a dead end.
One of the most important things I ever did to get better was to take a step back and look at the basic details.
basic (adjective) \’ba-sik also – zik\
: forming or relating to the most important part of something.” -Merriam Webster
I got away from my moment to moment safety analysis and instead took a dive into the engine that drove my fear.
Because you see, your real problem is fearfulness.
But here’s the kicker, the thing that generates your scary symptoms isn’t fear. It’s stress. But not just any old kind of stress.
: the emotion experienced in the presence or threat of danger.”
– Merriam Webster
Over time I realized that what I had to address was chronic stress, rather than its more mysterious cousins anxiety and fear.
Of course, stress and anxiety are not the same. Believe me, I know that you’re not simply stressed out.
Chronic stress is different though. It comes with some serious side effects. Actually, they look pretty familiar, right?
- panic attacks
- social isolation
- stomach problems
- sleep problems
- problems concentrating
- back pain
Now, if you stay stressed long enough you can indeed develop abnormal anxiety (long-term anxiety and fear).
But what I want you to understand is that fighting anxiety directly is like fighting a ghost.
That’s why most of your recovery efforts must target anxiety indirectly. And today I’m going to show you how to do that.
In this episode of The Anxiety Guru Show I discuss:
- The difference between stress and anxiety
- Why you should be more focused on stress reduction
- Specific ways of lowering stress
- Benefits of stress reduction
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