I never bothered to ask why and instead I’d get annoyed with her. Silly me.
My poor mom was emotional, sleepless, anxious, and ready to fight on a regular basis.
She did tell me it was menopause and that she was going through a lot, but as a male I didn’t know what all that meant, and to be honest, I never looked into it. I just laid low.
Perimenopause is a transitional time for women between the ages of roughly 45-55 that takes them into menopause.
Anyway, Tracey didn’t feel like her doctor(s) were very helpful, so here we are.
Perimenopause, or even full menopause, is nothing to sneeze at. It marks a significant life transition and can be painful, isolating, and take a long time to complete.
I delved into this issue for a lot of reasons. Mainly though, I just wanted to get the word out, which is that perimenopause is serious but manageable.
There are several symptoms of perimenopause and each one can cause distress.
“Even with a normal sleep cycle, fatigue may still be reported. Irritability, forgetfulness, headaches, stiff joints, joint pain, vertigo, palpitations, stomach bloating, fluid retention, and breast tenderness can occur. Menstrual symptoms include irregular menstrual flow, excessive or deficient amounts of menstrual flow, and infrequent flow. Sexual symptoms include a decrease in sexual interest or desire, vaginal dryness, dissatisfaction with sexual relationships, and painful intercourse” (Daire, A. P., & Fairall, H., 2005, p. 107).
So I’d say any woman experiencing the symptoms of perimenopause deserves a break. But more than that, I also think they deserve solid information. So if you are, or know someone, dealing with this very issue then take a listen to today’s podcast.
Inside Today’s Podcast
- The causes of perimenopause
- The symptoms of perimenopause
- The link between perimenopause, anxiety, and depression
- Treatment options for perimenopause
How to Cope with Perimenopause
What you really need to know in a nutshell is this:
- Get your hands on some basic education about sexuality and sexual functioning
- Normalize your sexual activity
- Try Magnesium, B vitamins, or a multivitamin
- Seek sex therapy to treat a sexual dysfunction or to manage a chronic
physical problem that requires a change in your typical
- Think positively about aging and menopause
- Live a healthy lifestyle and reduce stress
AND always talk to your doctor openly about what you’re experiencing and about treatment options available to you.
(Daire & Fairall, p. 112).
There’s more, there always is. But these are the basics and you should be aware of them.
And even if this issue doesn’t affect you directly chances are it affects someone you know. So learn about this condition for yourself or so you can empathize more with those around you because that can make all the difference in the world.
CLICK HERE to listen to the podcast.
A big thank you to Tracey for asking this excellent question.
Daire, A. P., & Fairall, H. (2005). Sexuality and perimenopause: What counselors need to know. Adultspan: Theory research & practice, 4(2), 105-115. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.
Perimenopause: rocky road to menopause. (Cover story). (2005). Harvard Women’s Health Watch, 12(12), 1-4. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.
Prior, J. C. (2006). Perimenopause lost—reframing the end of menstruation. Journal of Reproductive & Infant Psychology, 24(4), 323-335. doi:10.1080/02646830600974071